Pole Dancing

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Steamy, naked bodies whirling around a metal pole to the rhythm of pumping music.

That’s one way to get your attention.

Wipe the shock off your face; I’m not writing about anything pornographic. In this article, I am writing about polarity, specifically in terms of your thoughts. Although by now, you have gone from shock to wonder. That first sentence is an example of how your thoughts can quickly be changed.

Magnetics have north and south poles, in opposition to each other. You’ve seen this in action, when you’ve put two of them together. One side attracts, the other repels. Emotions have polarity too. Think love to hate, happy to sad, anger to calm and the list goes on. So it is with the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction states that where you focus your thoughts is what you will attract into your life. So, wouldn’t you want to keep your, err, “pole dancing” to the highest polarity level you can maintain? If you would like more money in your life, but feel that you live in poverty or that money is scarce, what do you think you will attract? More of the same. But what if wealth just seems unbelievable to you? How about just shifting your thoughts one step higher? Focus your thoughts on being self-supportive. You might begin to see job opportunities appear. If you act on those that appeal to you, you very likely will have a new job. Then take the next step in shifting your thoughts upward. Maybe it’s putting money in a savings account or other form of reliable investment. Continue to work on shifting your thoughts upward and you will attract what you need.

Even if you like to boogie down, keep your thoughts rising up that pole.

Reset

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This morning I read an article on “The Power Path – School of Shamanism” website titled “The Corona Virus: The Bigger Picture”.  here  I have been following this site for a number of years, and have gained much insight from their articles and monthly forecasts. What stood out the most for me was the idea of Reset. We’ve been determinedly plowing forward with the current way of life, and it isn’t working all that well. There is no denying that many destructive things are being ignored, and now a rampant virus is a very blatant indicator that we need to make some changes.

Lately, I’ve read a number of articles about how the millennials are so stressed, even to the point that they can’t tolerate handclapping. Those of us older people snort derisively, complain about their incessant use of marijuana to calm down, and demand that they grow up and handle life like we did.

What if the millennials are right, and all of us have created this go-go-go, get-it-done-right-now world?

Since many of us were teens, technological advances have connected the world delivering almost anything in real-time. We’re excited that we can see what’s going on in another part of the world, at any time of the day or night. We can have food or other supplies delivered to our door whenever we want. We can communicate with one another with a device in the palm of our hands. More powerful, efficient, clean-burning vehicles get us from place to place. Vast strides in the medical world have kept cancer from spreading too quickly, and I’m sure the cure is coming.

While these many things have been gifts to improve our lives, and make us live longer and healthier, there are downsides. Faster has become entitled. Faster has become expected. Faster has become a demand. And the cost is our mental health. Anxiety and stress drive us to do more and it is not always a good thing.

Mother Nature feels the burn as well, but doesn’t hesitate to snap at us when we’ve gone too far. Maybe, just maybe, this is our dear Mother Nature telling us it is time to slow down. Many businesses and government offices have closed their doors to the public. Events, and gatherings of more than 10 are banned. Schools are empty, and children are at home. What message, and purpose, might this be saying to us?

Is it time for a Reset?

When was the last time you sat down on the floor with your child and played a game? When was the last time you took a nap, read a book, or fixed yourself a nice meal that didn’t come out of a box?

I realize that many of you might be out of a job, and in danger of financial ruin, so I am not trying to downplay the reality or the hardships that come with global turmoil. But staying in a state of anxiety does not serve you either. Creative ideas and solutions do not come when you are in a state of panic. Take some time to play. When you are relaxed, you’ll be able to formulate plans to keep yourself on track. Maybe some of those plans are to divest yourself of things that are more stressors than useful. Sometimes facing ruin is our greatest path to a better life.

The Coronavirus primarily affects our lungs and our ability to breathe. Do you find yourself holding your breath? Do you feel suffocated by your circumstances? Symbolically, this virus is “exposing” us to the truth of our reality. Maybe you are not in an area with a large risk of exposure. Maybe your life is not feeling the pressure of this crisis. If so, you are more than likely on your path and don’t need the challenges presented. Your path might be to stay safe and ride it out, or it maybe that you need to be of service to others. Taking the time to relax and play to relieve the anxiety is the first step. Connecting to the Universe through meditation or prayer comes next, so you can receive guidance. And then you will be able to see if you need to do a little Reset of your life.

Get Your Game On

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Mass closures everywhere are forcing people to stay at home. Bored kids, banned from school, are likely driving their parents nutty. Too much 24-hour news reports fill us with a sense of doom. Bloggers are writing endless posts about staying calm. I am one of them.

When I was a child living on an Iowa farm, we endured countless blizzards keeping us sequestered. As farmers, we had food on hand so there were no worries about eating. Most of the time the power went out, and we lived by candlelight and my grandma cooked on an old coal-burning stove in the basement. In the sixties, there were no cell phones, no internet, no 24-hour television stations. That alone would send today’s world straight to Nutville.

I don’t remember ever being bored. What I do remember are marathon card games; rummy, tripoley, and sometimes just solitaire. We played another card game that involved betting with pennies, but I can’t remember the name. My uncle Fred and I battled to the death and near wore out our Monopoly board. But mostly what I remembered was sitting at the kitchen table with my family and having fun.

Outside, the snow was blowing and there were drifts several feet tall. My grandfather tied a rope from the house and stretched it to the barn, so he could find his way through the blowing snow to take care of the animals. We knew that the county snowplows would not be out until the snow stopped falling. In short, we were quarantined on the farm. I know I was a child, but I was very aware and astute for my age, and it seemed to me that we were content to allow Nature to take its course.

Perhaps this event serves to remind us of other times. Maybe this dependence upon technology and lack of face-to-face social connectedness has been more of a contributor to our undoing than we recognize. I believe there is often a greater underlying purpose to difficult events. So what is this situation doing? It is forcing people to stay home and face each other. To remember how to be a family and have fun together. To sit at a table and share a meal, talking and entertaining one another. To play games, or to maybe. . . just play.

So much seriousness these days that keeps everyone anxious and stressed. We think we need to be somewhere, doing something all the time, when instead we might just need to play and have fun.

I received the “Cheaters Version of Monopoly” as a retirement gift. Game time starts at 3:00. Any takers? Or should I say “Cheaters”?

Get your game on!

Published!

41ZJcig+cPL._SX311_BO1,204,203,200_[1]I have just achieved a long-time dream and published my first book.  I used Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing and it was surprisingly simple.  The publishing part, that is; writing is much more of a challenge.

My book “Phucenschitt – Spirituality For People Who Swear” is in the same theme as my blog posts and represents my views of spirituality.  But with a twist, for those of you – like me – who aren’t afraid to flavor their speech with foul language.  Real life, after all, does include plenty of reasons to swear.  I believe it doesn’t lessen my beliefs in the Universe, but rather strengthens them.

Please feel free to look, review and maybe purchase.  I thank you for any attention you might give.  You can purchase from Amazon here: Book

Retired and Rehired

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Tuesday was my last official day of full-time employment. Wednesday I was rehired as a temp. My office is having difficulties finding my replacement, so I am filling in on necessary work until that is complete. The unemployment rate is low in Colorado, and apparently most people are happy with their jobs and not seeking positions like mine.

I can’t really view any of this as either good or bad. I trust that the Universe has a plan for me, and I will see where it leads me. I’m receiving my same rate of pay, so the extra income is nice. And thanks to the blessed Affordable Care Act (enacted by former president, Obama, may I remind you), I am eligible for health care during my temp status – at the employee rate, not COBRA. COBRA is also a blessed thing, because I can opt into my other benefits for 18 months.

I can go into work as I see the need, which allows me to pursue my other passions – or maybe just ease into them slowly. So far, I find that my days go by rapidly and I often wonder how that has happened. In some ways, I think I am busier than before, and I have heard that same statement from other retirees.

This stock market thing is rather disappointing, when I am relying on my retirement account income, but as all things with the stock market it goes up and down as it pleases and you have to roll with it. Getting worked up about that just keeps you in an anxious mood, and you stay there. Same with the coronavirus. Anxiety irritates your immune system and make you more susceptible to illness.

Events like these are reminders to trust and listen to the Universe for guidance. When I say this, I don’t mean to just blindly and blithely go on with the attitude that “God-or whoever – will take care of it”. The Universe is your willing partner if you ask for help, but you must listen to and act upon the guidance you receive. It’s like leaving your car parked on a dark street, unlocked, with your wallet inside and expecting that because you believe in the Universe that it is magically protected. Okay, but the Universe nudges you to park under the streetlight, lock all the doors and don’t leave anything valuable in sight. The Universe is telling you How to be safe.

So that is how I am viewing my present situation. The stock market is experiencing a normal swing, so I shouldn’t be drawing from my account yet. Hiring my replacement is delayed so I can continue to work a little, both to keep my office running smoothly and provide me with income and continuation health care. I have free time to pursue passions and not have day-to-day work stress. I am being presented with ideas and opportunities for my future.

I think I just got hired by the Universe.

Loving Your Sh*t

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Happy Valentine’s Day to all! A day totally dedicated to love; sharing, giving and receiving, but do you think about giving love to yourself? Probably not, there are plenty of us too intent on giving it to everyone else than to think of our own needs.

It is the main part of our purpose here, besides growing our spirit. What is Spirit if not love? Life is messy and may often have challenges related to self-love. What is self-love, anyway? I believe it is honoring our needs before, but not at the expense of, others. How can you love and care for someone else if you don’t do it for you first? If you don’t, then anything you give might contain the energy of lack or resentment and that’s not a good gift.

When you put yourself first, you continuously fill yourself with love energy so your needs are taken care of so you have plenty – and maybe a little extra – for others. Now that is what I’m talking about!

Part of loving yourself includes loving all the messy parts. This is what I mean in reference to my blog title. We are human beings filled with good stuff and some sh*tty stuff, not all of it poop. We have emotions, not all of them good and some of them downright stinky. We think bad thoughts, sometimes right after the good ones. We have crooked teeth, and big asses – although they are popular now – wrinkles and glasses. We experience delusional thoughts and sometimes can’t control what comes out of our mouths. We’re every color and creed, that doesn’t always get honored. We’re stupid and we kill, sometimes out of greed. Being harmful in any way is not loving and should not be loved within yourself. If you love the crazy parts of you, then maybe you wouldn’t feel the need to be harmful.

How about starting out with a hug? Yourself, that is, with no help from another. Yasss, go ahead and wrap your arms around you. Who care if anyone looks? They might get jealous and do it too. Look in a mirror and say, “I Love YOU”. Do you have any idea how powerful that is? You would, if you took the time to do it.

Now pretend that every day is Valentine’s Day and treat yourself to a little self-love. Even if you are a little bit stinky.

Renewal

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“Life is a journey, not a destination.” I’m sure many of you have heard that phrase by Ralph Waldo Emerson. How often do you say “if I have/achieve/do this [thing], then I’ll be happy or whatever”? I know I have many times. But then what? Is life over because you got to that point? Maybe for a few, but most of us come up with the next thing.

That is why life is a journey.

I think it is supposed to be. Life is made up of a series of moments, discoveries and actions that help us grow. Or maybe just get us closer to death (sarcasm intended). We shouldn’t let it become a drudge or even a race to the finish line. Life is also not a competition, unless it is within your own mind and if that is what it takes to motivate you, then go for it.

I see life as a renewal. Think of how many people you have been. Baby, child, teenager, young adult, adult, elderly and many versions in-between. Relationships, careers, hobbies and interests. And if you think you don’t have interests. . .well, reading is obviously one of them.

Downtime is a renewal. Sometimes you just need to give your body or brain a break and do mindless activities. I like computer games and have a tendency to get addicted to them. I’m in that mode now, but am starting to realize that I need to get active again. After this post, I have a date with my treadmill. It’s only 12 degrees Fahrenheit outside or I would take a walk. What is important about this is acknowledging and accepting what renewal actions we need. Honoring your body’s need for rest is as important as keeping it strong, flexible and healthy. You can’t do one without the other. If you are fidgety, it is just unspent energy and your body’s way of saying “get me moving!”. Just as feeling listless says “give me a break.”

Too often we push ourselves past the breaking point because of the perceived expectations of others. Do you really think your employer wants a crabby or sick you at work? No, especially if you are sick and infectious to others. You wouldn’t want a crabby or sick doctor operating on you, would you? Listen to what your body is saying to you and take care of it, unless you don’t care if it takes care of you. When you honor your body, your mind will respond and give you ideas. They could be creative, inventive or just reminders of to-do tasks that you forgot when you were neglecting your body.

You can think of the Earth as just a gigantic body. She goes through seasons as a form of renewal. We are in Winter, when she lies dormant and lets the Sky be active. Spring tends to be volatile, when Earth and Sky work together to cleanse and clear the way for new life. Summer is about growth, so the two work in peaceful harmony. Fall is the time when Earth and Sky share their beauty and bounty with all of nature. Imagine what we would be like if we nurtured ourselves in that same way? Do you feel renewed?

Business Casual

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“Who said Business Casual has to be boring?”

We have forgotten how to dress. I like yoga pants. . .for the gym. Or lounging at home. Or the occasional visit to the massage therapist or doctor, when you need to get your clothes off quickly. But not for work. We’ve slid down into this oh-so-casual look of low maintenance, which really just gives the appearance of “I don’t give a sh*t”. Lack of time is just about priorities. If you don’t care about your appearance, what else does that translate into? Lack of funds. . .sorry, I don’t buy into that either. I used to sew my own clothes when I couldn’t afford new prices. Nowadays, consignment stores are popping up everywhere offering designer wear for low-budget prices. I don’t get the “ewww, pre-worn” prissiness. How many times do you think that brand-new shirt was tried on before you bought it? At least the consignment store wares are clean.

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“Tell me again, that bullsh*t story.”

I have never been a fan of business suits, at least the bland, woolen versions. Me, I like a little bit of edge to my business look. I scored this vintage Claude Montana blazer off of Poshmark, an online consignment boutique. Italian made, impeccable tailoring, it features those power shoulder pads so famous in the 80s and early 90s. Mr. Montana was famous for that power suit look, but unfortunately went bankrupt in the late 90s. I consider it an extra investment that I now have two Claude M blazers. Paired with the Hermes scarf in place of a tie (another Poshmark bargain), and Manolo Blahnik wingtips, this defines my version of the power suit. Affordable, due to the secondhand purchase, this look is classy with a definite edge. A better business casual than the blazer and ripped jeans favored by the younger crowd, not that I don’t like that look.

Why I need this look when I’m three weeks out from retirement, speaks more to my opinion about dressing than anything else. I am happiest and feel more like my self when I am dressed well. I’ve been like that since a small child, and then it was ingrained into me when I attended Patricia Stevens Fashion and Business College in the late 70s.

Patricia Stevens originally began as a way to educate and polish young women for entry into the workforce. Part of the curriculum included personal development and appearance. Classes included etiquette, modeling and professional presentation. We were required to dress in heels, nylons and dresses every day. These days, that might generate the opinion as sexist, but I did not and still do not feel that way. We were taught to look professional and act with professional manners. Pretty damn good skills to have. I have read research study findings that state attractive people get better jobs and pay. I don’t think that means you need to be beautiful, just well presented. If you have ever sat on an interview panel, those that come in looking like the job they want usually get the job they want.

One of the trainings that was ingrained into our being was the “Patricia Stevens stance”, a modeling pose with the weight on the angled right foot, forward facing left foot, hips turned to appear narrow and wide shoulders. A feminine, yet powerful presentation of self. I can drop into that pose instantly. When I do, I feel confident and beautiful, even while wearing yoga pants.

Heart Sounds

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Do you ever get a song continuously playing in your head? I’m sure it happens a lot, I know it does for me.

We’ve been watching some reruns of the Johnny Cash show. It was a musical variety show that ran from June 1969 to March 1971. I remember watching it with my grandparents when I was a child. We all loved it. What’s not to love about Johnny Cash? A country music icon and original badass. He delivered rockabilly with all the attitude it deserved.

One of episodes featured Neil Diamond, another music legend. He performed “Brother Love’s Travelling Salvation Show”, one of my favorites. This song has been swirling through my mind for a couple of days. Not such a bad thing.

Those early memories remind me that my love of music has been with me my entire life. Music pulls emotions to the surface, enhances them, releases them and even heals them. Truly a divine gift from Spirit. With the variety of genres, we have many choices that we love or just can’t abide. But some forms of music speak to our heart. I call these Heart Sounds. Music so rich and powerful that you can almost feel your heart responding to the rhythm. Music that creates a deep, peaceful wave within our soul.

Music is for enjoyment, but it can be used for healing purposes. The didgeridoo was invented by the Aboriginal peoples and has been played near sick people to help them heal. It has since been researched and used next to the body. The instrument produces a low frequency vibrational sound similar to our brain waves. Perhaps this is why some music feels to me like heart sounds.

Our bodies have a vibrational structure. This has been researched in the field of bioenergetics, the flow of energy through the body. This subject is beyond the scope of this article.

However, when someone says to you “will you turn that music down”, it might simply be that it does not resonate with their heart sound.

Wishing and Wanting

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You are never given the desire for something without the abilities and opportunities to have it in your life, but is your desire big enough to follow through with what it takes?

The recent tragic death of Kobe Bryant and his daughter had me thinking about the rise to greatness. I don’t follow basketball and know very little about Kobe, except what I have read. An incredibly gifted athlete, his passion drove his desire.

Professional athletes have physical attributes, passion and drive, and dedication to practice. You may say, “I’ll never be like that”. Is that lack of desire or lack of belief?

We don’t want what we don’t need. I don’t want an airplane, so I obviously don’t need one. I don’t want to be a professional athlete either. Wanting is not limited to those seemingly big things. Day-to-day life is filled with simple wants: a better home or car, an advanced profession, children, or maybe just a fresh cup of coffee. And not everyone likes coffee.

Desire is the fuel behind the wants. Desire grows into passion and drives the action to achieve your goals. Focus will connect you with the opportunities and teachers to build the skills that return financial support and more opportunities until you achieve what you have wished for.

Some things will happen immediately, like brewing that cup of coffee or going to the coffee shop. Other things will take time to grow and could be a lifetime of achieving. That kernel of desire within drives you to success.

“I can’t do that.”

Is that a “Can’t” or a “Won’t”? Desire will drive you even if you think you can’t. It just might take longer. Can’t will put limits on your skills and downgrade your self-worth, but won’t stop you from wanting your goal. Won’t might just be a fear of not belonging if you don’t really want to do something. It’s okay, being honest about what you want quite often gets respect from others. Now who doesn’t want that?

Use that caffeine desire to get yourself a cup of coffee, and while you are sipping it, plan your next step to your goal. Even if it is just drinking it all.