Bon Voyage and Godspeed, Dear Kate

41OLqVyQ+iL._AC_US327_QL65_I, like many people, was shocked and saddened to hear about the passing of Kate Spade. Kate, as we know, was the brilliant mind behind cute, quirky and beautiful handbags, shoes, clothing and housewares. I own 2 pairs of shoes and 5 of her fabulous bags and would love to have a collection. I bet they will be hard to find now.

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What really saddens me is her method. The report is of suicide. Darling Kate, what could have been so awful in your life for this to happen? Most anything can be fixed or replaced with something better. The only thing that would warrant a suicide is a painful, terminal illness and even then, don’t go it alone. There are doctors to help with that sort of thing.

We see this played out often in daily life. Someone with mental illness, severe depression, addictions, or severe pain – all truly a crisis. But there is always help. We get too far mired down in our own muck and we somehow can’t believe that there is anyone out there who cares or will help. We have distanced ourselves with too much technology and social media and forget how to reach out and hold someone’s hand. We don’t talk – we text. I read that you can even have Alexa or somesuch read your child a bedtime story. WTF.

Mental illness typically has roots in a chemical imbalance in the brain. We know that there are plenty of chemicals out there to balance them. However, some of the most simple things can change your brain chemicals. And one of them is human touch. A hug. A hand to hold. Tears to share. Laughter to lighten up. A kiss goodnight. Even petting your cat or dog will stir up the good chemicals. Do YOU do any of these things? There is ALWAYS someone out there who will hold your hand when you most need it. A nurse in the hospital. It doesn’t matter if you don’t know them, the chemicals will activate. Human beings are not meant to be alone so don’t suffer alone. Find someone to talk to if you find yourself sinking into a dark place. There is always another path for you.

Rest In Peace, Kate Spade, and thank you for bringing something for us all to smile about.

Opportunities and Boundaries

I recently read a posting on Karen Rauch Carter’s Facebook page about opportunities and front doors.  Karen is the author of “Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life”, a fabulous and easy-to-follow guidebook about using feng shui not only in your home, but your entire life.

IMG_0391The point of the posting was whether or not your front door allowed for opportunities to find you.  A front door that you could not see from the street or wasn’t easily accessible from the street sidewalk did not allow for opportune energy to find you.  Conversely having some measure of boundaries was also important, especially if you live at the end of a street or bend of a curve.

My front door clearly has both.  I hadn’t consulted the book before transforming our front yard.  It was the typical builder basic: grass, tree, three shrubs and bark.  The front door was black.  It is a cool-looking vertical house, but it needed a little. . .pizazz.

I’ve never been one to do things by halves.  And there is certainly no doubt where my front door is and how to get to it.  My sweetie and I made the hoop gate.  Along with everything else you see.

The red door and red hoops very clearly open the path to opportunities.  Red energy can work two ways, either draw energy to something or block energy from it.  I set the intention for both: allow the good stuff and block the bad stuff.

IMG_0392.JPGBoundaries are set with the iron fence, yet you can see through it.  Good personal energetic boundaries allow good things to flow into you, like love and abundance.  A brick wall is not a good boundary, either in a yard or yourself.  You quite literally shut yourself off from everything.  So our fence allows the energy to flow.  You can see the beauty inside, with the flowers and the landscape yet it blocks people and their peeing dogs from harming it.  No more than you want a peeing dog in your inner landscape.

There are a pair of planters flanking both sides of the fence.  A pair always represents good couple energy.  Flanking the fence means we share our boundaries equally.

Along the fence line, we planted the more interesting species.  Some rather erotic looking lilies and plenty of colorful tulips.  None of which are blooming at this time.  The tulip fest is done and the lilies haven’t opened their sleepy eyes yet.  I think this demonstrates that we are not afraid of letting our more “colorful” side be right out front to the public eye.  As it should be.  Why should we hide the very best parts of our inner landscape?

And sometimes we shouldn’t hide the more difficult parts. IMG_0386

Will & Grace

will-and-grace[1]I have never watched the show, but I don’t watch much TV.  So I don’t know much about it.  I am talking about your Will, as in your personal power and Grace, staying calm and cool under pressure.

In today’s crazy times, it is very easy to lose your cool and have a public meltdown. H*ll, we see it all the time on the news! Doesn’t mean that we all want to witness that, much less be the one who wails like a two-year-old.

Having a Will is healthy as it means that you have a sense of self and appropriate boundaries. Will helps you get up in the morning. Will gets you to the gym to do something about that beer gut. (Yes, you know it’s there.) Will gets you to survive and thrive. Will helps you write that novel.

man-1207675_640But the most important thing that Will does for you is getting you to stand up for yourself. You have a right to your beliefs. You have a right to your emotions. You have a right to be safe and cared for. Will doesn’t do this at the expense or pain of anyone or anything else. That’s Will’s black-sheep cousins, Coward and Narcissist.

When Will stands up for your beliefs, Will needs to invite Grace to the party. Grace acts with dignity. Grace remains calm, but stands firm. Grace has an inner badass. Grace does not screech and demand her way. Grace bends her Will to a Higher Power as she knows that something bigger is there to guide and protect her.

If you put Will & Grace on your team, you will walk through life being respected for honoring your needs with dignity. And some people will think you are a badass.

Let’s Talk Chakras – The Advent of the 12 Chakra System

12chakrasystem-web[1]12/21/2012 is known as the date that began a shift in Divine Energy. The Universe is simply tired of the old way of doing things. Mean people can’t hide in the shadows anymore. Greed, corruption, male domination, lack of empathy and compassion and many other negative patterns. . .I guess you could say it is the time to clean up the Seven Deadly Sins.

We live in volatile times. Shifting energy will do that. Think Spring on a grand scale. Just imagine what will blossom when we get through this. I doubt that our minds can even comprehend that right now.

Another shift in energy is with the chakra system in the body. If you have been following this series, you know that there are seven that exist within the body. There are a few minor ones that I haven’t written about: hands, feet and ears. They need equal attention as the others. Five additional new chakras are being awakened and they exist outside of your body. As they are still developing, I don’t know enough yet to write about them. However, the eighth chakra – The Higher Self – is the one we should be opening up to.

The Higher Self Chakra allows you to seek guidance from higher realms. Your Higher Self is the part of you that knows all about you and guides you to your best good. Expanding this will open you to spiritual channels that can take you to a more meaningful existence. Think Archangels and the Council of Light. They are the guardians of the planet, guiding us to peace and ensuring that we don’t blow the thing up. Good to know. Earth is an amazing incredible place, filled with endless possibilities for growth and spiritual development. We have no idea how important it is in the grand scheme of the Universe, which is why these Higher Beings are so involved.

Open your heart, allow your mind to expand with possibilities you can’t see, listen with your inner hearing to the Wise voices that can and will guide you to happiness and contentment. Don’t know what that sounds like? They speak very formal-like and calm, always starting with “We”. They will never, ever make you feel bad, scared, depressed, nervous or any other negative emotion. Their truth will resonate down in your gut in a way that you don’t understand, but just know without a doubt. If you listen to their guidance, your life will be smoother. Oh the sh*t you might be dealing with will still be there, but that guidance will help you get through it with confidence and composure. If you let them, they’ll even reduce the drama.  Wouldn’t that be nice!

So tune out, tap in and turn on the faucet of light that will fill you with the strength, courage, confidence and direction to move forward in your life. A meaningful existence will seek you out, giving you purpose and the desire to stay here as long as possible. You’ll improve your health without struggle. Relationships will be with like-minded people. You’ll have exactly what you need in your garden of life.

May Divine Light and Love be with you always.

Let’s Talk Chakras – Part Five – The Throat Chakra

throat-2533108_640This is the fifth in a series about our energy body that consists of Chakras. Chakra means “wheel” or “vortex”. We each have seven of them located along the spine, from the base up to the crown of your head. There is an additional one located slightly above the top of your head. Chakras are funnel-shaped, spin in a clockwise circle, and you have one on the front of you that draws in energy and one on the back that gives out energy. It is beneficial to you to keep them spinning and have a balance of flow in and out.

The fifth chakra is located in your throat. It vibrates to the color blue in the light spectrum. Physical issues are related to throat and thyroid.

The Throat Chakra governs your ability to speak out – creatively, passionately, and emotionally. How often have you been emotionally troubled by something and unable to talk about it? Thyroid issues can help you identify your ability to speak your truth. Maybe you have creative or unusual ideas and feel that you are unable to express them. Getting to the root cause will not only unblock your chakra, but will help you speak the truth and connect to your personal power center in the third chakra. If you have creative ideas that you are unable to share vocally, perhaps try writing them on paper or even painting or coloring. Once you open your creative flow, you might be surprised at how you can use your voice to express them to others.

Maybe you have a difficult time saying no to demands upon your time. Practice saying “I can’t do that right now” to open your voice to the possibility of saying “no I won’t do that for you”. The more you do it, the easier it gets, and the better you will feel. You might even release your need for thyroid medication.

It is important to keep your chakras clean and spinning in a clockwise direction. A regular practice of meditation, with a focus on re-balancing your chakras, is the best method of keeping them healthy.

Let’s Talk Chakras – Part Four – The Heart Chakra

heart-2533104_640This is the fourth in a series about our energy body that consists of Chakras. Chakra means “wheel” or “vortex”. We each have seven of them located along the spine, from the base up to the crown of your head. There is an additional one located slightly above the top of your head. Chakras are funnel-shaped, spin in a clockwise circle, and you have one on the front of you that draws in energy and one on the back that gives out energy. It is beneficial to you to keep them spinning and have a balance of flow in and out.

The Heart. The center of your chakra system that connects the lower three – earth based chakras – to the upper three – spirit based chakras. It is located in the center of your chest at the base of your ribcage. It vibrates to the color green in the light spectrum. A healthy one is like a bright, shining emerald. Physically, it relates to your heart and your lungs. Issues in these areas typically mean a blocked heart chakra. Practice opening your heart and allowing yourself to feel your emotions. This is the most healthy thing you can do, for not only your heart chakra, but your entire emotional system.

The Heart Chakra balances your entire energy body and is the most powerful of all the chakras. When your heart is functioning properly, everything else will be able to flow smoothly. Opening your heart is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself. And it begins with loving yourself. When you love yourself completely, nothing that anyone can do to you can penetrate this energy. Self-love is being able to love yourself unconditionally and no one can change that. Unless you let them.

Look in the mirror. See all the parts that make you You. Love them. There is always something good about you to love. You are a precious child of the Divine Energy that created you, so how can you say you are not lovable? Hug yourself. Thank yourself for being a wonderful human being. Tell yourself that you are beautiful every day. Take good care of your body. Feed your soul with things you love to do. Give yourself a little break every day just to be kind to your body, mind and soul.

Your Heart is a precious thing, after all.

It is important to keep your chakras clean and spinning in a clockwise direction. A regular practice of meditation, with a focus on re-balancing your chakras, is the best method of keeping them healthy.

Bring Me A Higher Love

i-love-myself-417267_640Self-love can be difficult to attain. By design, we are flawed human beings learning to navigate through life and find what lurks within our soul. We, too often, waste a lot of unnecessary effort comparing ourselves to someone or something instead of accepting our humanness.

Being human is about learning after all.

What is self-love? Basically, I believe it is caring about and for yourself without any judgements. You are not like anyone else nor should you expect to be. Caring for yourself can take many forms: rest, nourishment, play, inquisitiveness, creativity, rewards, connections, just to name a few. When you feel bad, you are not caring for yourself. If someone else makes you feel bad, you are not caring for yourself. And I’m not talking about criminal activities or being an a$$hole. That is not caring for yourself either.

Many of us have been damaged during our childhood. Neglect, abuse, bullying, these can cause tremendous psychological damage and create a belief in low self-worth. It is often difficult to overcome these early mind-f*cks and believe that you are lovable.

The path to self-love is through a Higher path. Whatever your belief or religious system, find a way to connect to the Universe. All-encompassing, All-knowing and just plain unconditional loving, it is there you will find what true love for yourself means.

The Universe doesn’t care what you’ve experienced. It doesn’t care your color, gender, race or any other preference. After all, the Universe made you. You came from pure Love. You came here because the Universe wanted you. Doesn’t matter what your parents think. The Universe put you here as a pure, loving extension of Itself.

Wow. And all this time you thought you weren’t all that. In the mind of the Universe, You are everything.

Now tell me again why you don’t think you are lovable.

Let’s Get Rocked!

gems-1405998_640I love me some Def Leppard. And I love me some Mother Earth for providing me with my other favorite rock: crystals. Aside from being nature’s jewels, crystals are lovely to wear and are Divinely created healing tools. If you are attuned to such things you can feel their vibrations when you hold them in your hands.

Crystals and stones come in many shapes, sizes, colors and geological forms. They have different vibrations and different metaphysical properties. They can be programmed to send or receive energy. You can wear them, carry them, or place them in strategic places. So much power can be contained in one small bit of earth.

I like holding them during meditation or if I need a bit of a psychic boost. I have an array nestled in various places all through my house.

rock-crystal-1603480_640Clear quartz crystal is one of the most basic, yet powerful stones. You can program, or set the intention of its purpose, by holding it in your hand. It can send or receive. It is often used as a healing stone. I have a sphere, and OMFG! is it powerful! I can literally cleanse the energy in a room in minutes just by holding it in my hand. It has a strong connection to the Council of Light and whenever I need some extra guidance I use my crystal to connect to Them.

rose-quartz-422715_640Rose quartz is a crystal of necessity. It is associated with unconditional love and will help you to open your heart. Place it under your pillow for sweet dreams and boosting your self-love.

stone-3190526_640Amethyst is beautiful in jewelry. It is also very helpful in awakening your intuition and it is a protective stone.

obsidian-505332_640If you often feel spacey, try hematite, obsidian or black onyx to help you get grounded.

Malachite will help you to find emotional blocks held within you and release them.malachite-2775996_640

These are some basic stones to work with. Unsure of what to get? Find a metaphysical store or a rock shop. Walk around and look at the stones. What attracts your attention? That is most likely the stone that you need. Pick it up and hold it in your hand. Does it vibrate? Is there a temperature change? The stone is connecting with your energy. Remember to cleanse your stones after purchase and then on a regular basis to release any held energy. Most stones and crystals can be cleansed by holding them under running water and visualizing the negativity going down the drain and then placing them in sunlight. I keep many of mine on the windowsills so they are constantly vibrating at full power.

Remember to thank Mother Earth as she gives us Love in the form of crystals.

Spring Fever

grass-3249879_640Happy, yellow faces of daffodils are poking out everywhere. Trees are developing buds. Tulips are pushing upwards from the dead, brown turf. Nest sitting birds are chirping. New life is working its way up from the dormant earth to create beauty and welcome to warm weather.

Spring can be volatile in Colorado. You don’t know from one day (hell, one minute!) to the next what weather you will experience. We’ve had some 70 degree days this March, but it’s not out of the question to get a heavy, wet snowstorm in May. Last May, we had a record-setting hailstorm that had auto dealerships in tears and closed Colorado Mills Mall for months.

Springtime has always been emotionally difficult for me. It’s quite often a time when I want to make a severe change. I don’t usually, but I’m literally itching out of my skin. I can only guess that because I am an empath, all of nature’s renewal puts out such powerful energy that I am affected by that.

Or maybe it is just Spring Fever.

I can’t wait for all my flowers to show their faces. We spent an enormous amount of time transforming the front yard from grass to colorful beauty. Last summer just knocked our socks off with all the growth. Just sitting outside looking at it all was so peaceful and relaxing. We added quite a few new things last fall so I can’t wait to see what they will do. Got some black tulips in the bunch so I’m really looking forward to them.

DSCN1476Springtime is for planting, whether it is for actual seeds or bold, new ideas. It is the time to set your intentions of what you would like to see in your life. It is a time of hope, and certainly a time of change. But something will grow, whether you plan it or not. If you didn’t do anything to your yard, nature will do it for you. Her definition of beauty might not be the same as yours. She is just as happy to give you a weed bed. Life can also give you a weed bed if you don’t tend to it properly.

So what are you going to plant in the garden of life this spring? Me? I’m planting flowers.

IT Is Not An Earring

earring-2591496_640Have you ever stopped wearing pierced earrings and after a time the hole grew shut? Maybe you had three or four in each ear and decided you didn’t want that many anymore. Maybe you just decided you didn’t like pierced ears after a time. Earrings are a fun and beautiful accessory that can be enjoyed.

Sex is not earring. If you don’t use IT, the hole will not grow shut. You might think that when you are in your menopause years. Your body is changing and maybe sex is not what it used to be. Our inner tissues get thinner and drier and that can make sex painful. Enough so that you would rather just quit and let the hole grow shut.

man-3221066_640Sex is enjoyable and healthful for you in many ways. If you do not move your joints the fluids surrounding them do not lubricate them properly and then you have pain. Same thing Down Below. Using IT keeps it healthier and lubricated. Plus all the brain chemicals and hormones that get generated during sex keeps you happier and healthier.

If you are experiencing a lot of pain, talk to your doctor. There are many options that can help. If you are in a relationship, SHARE your issues with your partner. It will help prevent them from thinking that you are not interested in THEM. Try different things with your partner. If penetration is too painful, try oral. Invest in a Battery Operated Boy, otherwise known as BOB. BOB can be your friend if you are not in a relationship. Just do not give up sex because it is painful.

You are still a sexy, beautiful woman. Be that! And put the earring back in.