Have you smiled today? Have you laughed? Have you hugged yourself? Well, why not?
I love our front garden. It’s a tiny bit of paradise filled with color and life. We created this out of a grass-filled space, and it has grown much in a few years.
I love seeing it all come alive in the spring. A reminder that nature knows exactly what it needs to do all the time.
I continually add new plantings, just because some of them don’t always like the winter months or may they don’t like where I put them.
It’s okay, that is why it is called garden-ing; a verb rather than a noun. For me, just creating a beautiful space that I love.
There are a multitude of sources regarding the origination of Mother’s Day, and all for good reason. I like to think of it as honoring the nurturing aspect of a woman towards a child. However, many women are not mothers, including me, but that doesn’t lessen the capability of nurturing. Nor do I think it is limited to the female gender.
Nurturing is a deeply-ingrained capacity to care for another, and a full expression of love. Anyone can act in the capacity of a mother simply through this self-less, generous expression. The first step to nurturing is turning it inwards to yourself. You cannot give to others freely, without first giving to yourself.
Nurturing is honoring yourself when you are tired, just as a father puts a cranky child to bed. It is feeding yourself when you are hungry, as a mother nurses a hungry baby. It is motivating yourself to fulfill your passions, as a parent encourages a child to build their skills.
To love yourself unconditionally by honoring your body, your needs and your very existence, all of which is learned in your early childhood. If those needs were not met when you were a child, it is never to late to nurture yourself. You act out when your inner child is not being cared for. Ask yourself what you need and do that. Give yourself a hug and tell your child-self that you are loved and cared for and protected. When you begin to mother yourself, you will no longer seek it outside of you. Your relationships will become more meaningful and your total well-being will feel happy.
Happy Mother’s Day to all of us.
I had in mind to write a welcome of the warm, beautiful spring weather with this great song echoing through my head, and I discovered that Dave – Life and Random Thinking had posted the same. Since we seem to be humming the same tune, I decided to go with it and sing the refrain. (Great post, Dave!)
The weather in Denver has been beautiful for the last couple weeks. We are beginning to register 80 degrees F, and the bright sun is making everything grow, including the weeds. Although it is not unheard of, we aren’t likely to get any snow in May. I recall some heavy Memorial weekend snow piles. We are more than likely to get hailstorms and Colorado is notorious for them. (Please Universe, no. Been down that road already.) But, it is the sunshine that makes everything all right.
Colorado is a very outdoors-minded state. Cities, suburbs or mountains, most everyone loves to get out and into nature. Quarantine or no, we are like bears emerging from the den to burn off those cave pounds.
A natural anti-viral, sunlight provides healing energy to nurture our physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies. Vitamin D is rapidly absorbed into our skin within 20 minutes. The time of day is important in order to avoid the skin-damaging rays. Seek your sunbath before 10:00am or after 2:00pm. I have never been a “sun-worshipper”, slathering myself with coconut oil and baking to the consistency of a leather bag, but I love being out in it as much as those who do. I’m just a little more mindful of covering up when I’ve had my share. That’s what they make beach umbrellas for. (If nothing but to savor a cocktail or two.)
Take a stroll in the morning sun and feel its warmth soak into your winter-worn skin. Allow its healthful benefits fill you up and soothe your soul. Let the sun shine into your windows and brighten your space. Accept Mother Nature’s gift of love.
Easter, or Pascha is Sunday April 12th and will be celebrate by millions, most likely at home in a virtual gathering. Whether it is Passover or of Christ rising from death, a Pagan ritual, or any other significant meaning, it is the celebration of life defeating death. In Christian terms, it is Jesus teaching us that we are more than our physical bodies.
I won’t go into a theological discussion of this ritual, but the main theme is birth or rebirth. There is really no coincidence that the current state of the planet happens to be at a peak during this Easter season.
Every living thing on this planet is going through rebirth, or an ascension into a higher dimension. Our DNA, our cellular structure, our energetic bodies are going through an upgrade. Sort of like going from a four-cylinder engine to a high-performance racing version in one day. All of us. At the same time. Believe it or not, the Universe is trying to make this a little easier by forcing us to stay home. A little test drive, so to speak.
We aren’t getting a choice in this upgrade, even if you think you can resist. “What you resist, persists”, as the saying goes. The Lightworkers are actively working the collective energy patterns to help everyone assimilate the change. Those who are enlightened, but not active Lightworkers, have already made adjustments to their lives and are just moving through the changes. Then there is the group who is fighting it every day, thinking that life will just go back to the way it was. It won’t. But it will be better than it was. They’ll suffer and maybe become ill, then blame it all on the government or some such. But they will still change. Then there are the wonderfully blessed souls who made the soul agreement to become violently ill and pass on. These beautiful ones have agreed to absorb the grief and negativity in their corner of the planet and take it with them into death, in order to rapidly shift the energy. I hope their spiritual rewards are truly wonderful.
If I’ve managed to keep your attention this far, you might be wondering what to do. Maybe you already know, but are reading along for validation. Look to this time of isolation for the answers. We are being given the gift of “pause and reset”. Dig into your heart and soul and ask yourself what matters and how you want to live. What are you doing without that no longer matters? Has your life suddenly become less burdensome by staying at home? Do you have more time for your family? Have you discovered time to follow your passions? What changes are being made in your life – might there be something better? Creativity is being heightened now; what does this mean for you? Now is your opportunity to design or refine your life path. Envision what it will look like and you will manifest it into being through guided action steps.
For those of you ready for the next step; look to spiritual teachers for information. Many of the authors on Hay House publishing have websites with spiritual practices. Try meditation for starters. If you have studied the Chakra body, then begin to work through the fifth dimensional version, because this is what is being re-wired within you. It is seriously more powerful than what was. The energy to be developed, or ascended, is what will lead you through the planetary changes. You will need to work on releasing old beliefs, grief, negativity to move into ascension. The following is a brief explanation of your new energetic body.
The Twelve Chakra System:
Eighteen inches above your head is the Stellar Gateway. It vibrates gold and is the receiver of all information from the Creator or All That is.
Six inches above your head is the Soul Star, which vibrates magenta. It carries the blueprint for all your spiritual gifts, in all your lifetimes.
The Causal is offset to the rear of your head. It connects us to the entire Angelic realm and vibrates moon white.
The Crown Chakra is the top of your head and is the connection to your Higher Self, which is a receiver for the upper three. Formerly violet, it now vibrates liquid gold.
The Third Eye is in your forehead. The vibration has changed from indigo to emerald crystal. Your Crown and Third Eye have integrated their energy through the pineal gland. It is our point of manifestation. “As Above, So Below”; or what you envision becomes your reality. Once this is activated, manifestation is more powerful than ever.
The Throat Chakra has intensified its blue color and takes the vibration of our thoughts into words. It is very powerful.
The Heart Chakra in the center of your chest and has expanded to the width of your shoulders. It is resembles a flower and has 33 petals, each with their own heart lesson. The energy has shifted from green to white, and radiates the most powerful vibration of all: Love.
The Solar Plexus is between your ribs and navel. It has shifted from yellow to bright gold. I have always referred to this as “your inner bullsh*t detector”, because it acts as a sensory device for your surroundings.
The Naval Chakra is newly formed, vibrating bright orange. This is the connection between you and all other life forms on the planet, helping you to create a cooperative society. Sharing and caring will be the new norms.
The Sacral Chakra has changed from orange to bright pink. Pink has always been associated with love, so the energy shift is crucial for this chakra. All our emotional sh*t is carried here, and is totally being affected by our ascension. Clearing out the old, the negative thoughts and beliefs, is very important during this pause and reset. Many will struggle, but an enormous amount of support is available. If you can work through your inner enemies during this time, the transition will be less stressful.
The red Root Chakra is now the shining platinum Base Chakra. The energy is very powerful and establishes your presence on Earth as: I AM.
About twelve inches below your feet is the Earth Star, your grounding to the Earth. Once you have made this connection, you will continuously stay grounded. Your soul path information is stored here.
Take time during your meditations and start to connect with each Chakra. Focus on them individually and gain insight to their messages and energy shifts. Fully visualize their new form and allow them to support your physical body. As you work through them, they will connect and begin your ascension into a fifth dimensional being.
There is nothing about this to be frightened of. Nor is there anything to resist. You are awakening to a higher vibrational self. This energy will fill you with light, love, contentment, peace and joy. Can there be anything better than that?
A beautiful pictorial of the chakras can be found at:
We are going through a collective change as our planet moves into a higher frequency of light energy. Changes are happening and more are coming, but they will lead us in a better direction providing we do our inner work. Spirit is guiding us every step of the way so listen to your guidance.
It is interesting that the COVID-19 virus is affecting the lungs and breathing. The word “Spirit” originates from the Latin word spirare, which means to breathe. Slow, deep breathing helps us to access Spirit. If you read Louise Hay’s book “Heal Your Body” (1982, Hay House Inc), the mental causes for lung issues are: depression, grief, fear of taking in life, and not feeling worthy of living life fully. Unresolved grief lives deep within the lungs, and we are collectively being challenged to face our shadows. Grief is not limited to death and dying, but any unresolved emotional pain.
Healing grief can be a painful task, but trust me on this, it is worth every tear you shed. About 13 years ago, my life was in shambles. I was going through a divorce with a verbally abusive alcoholic, the country was starting its economic recession so we were forced to stay in our house for a year and a half until it sold at a loss. My relationship with my mother was never very good, but it got worse. I allowed people to take advantage of my kindness and hard-working ethics. Basically, I hit bottom. I kept asking myself why I let this constantly happen. So one day, I stripped myself naked and stood in front of my full-length mirror and took a good look at myself. What was I lacking? What was wrong with me? I mentally catalogued my physical faults and then did the same with my personality. And then came the behavior patterns. I didn’t like them. Then I made myself catalogue all my good stuff. I knew that I was basically a good, kind-hearted, generous woman, but my boundaries and lack of self-worth made all that look weak. I was determined to change. And I did.
It took about five years of intensive self-work. I did most of it myself, but I know that is not for everyone. I love to read and research, and by doing so, cements the knowledge in my brain. I learned to love myself. I learned that not having contact with my family stopped the mind-f*ck dialogue I had to endure. I learned how to be my own mother, by nurturing my lost inner child. I learned how to allow people to help and support me. I learned how to say No. I cried a lot. Sometimes deep, lung-burning sessions that I thought would never stop. I grieved for what I lost and what I never had. And you know what?
Trust me on this. It worked. I am not the same person I was ten years ago. I am content with my life, and most days I feel joy within. I am in constant connection with Spirit for guidance on my best life. If it weren’t for Spirit’s guidance, we wouldn’t be living in our house across the street from a beautiful urban lake and within walking distance of groceries and take-out food, all of which is allowable during our current stay-at-home status. I know that my energy frequency is ascending, and it will help me hold the light of Divine Love within my heart in order to assist with raising the frequency of the planet.
As I write this, I can feel the healing energy spreading. If you would like to increase the healing energy, do your grief work. Use this time of rest and retreat to face your inner demons. Nurture yourself as you would a newborn baby. Allow yourself to grieve for whatever losses you have faced and maybe are now facing. Letting it wash away with your tears can only be good grief.
Steamy, naked bodies whirling around a metal pole to the rhythm of pumping music.
That’s one way to get your attention.
Wipe the shock off your face; I’m not writing about anything pornographic. In this article, I am writing about polarity, specifically in terms of your thoughts. Although by now, you have gone from shock to wonder. That first sentence is an example of how your thoughts can quickly be changed.
Magnetics have north and south poles, in opposition to each other. You’ve seen this in action, when you’ve put two of them together. One side attracts, the other repels. Emotions have polarity too. Think love to hate, happy to sad, anger to calm and the list goes on. So it is with the Law of Attraction.
The Law of Attraction states that where you focus your thoughts is what you will attract into your life. So, wouldn’t you want to keep your, err, “pole dancing” to the highest polarity level you can maintain? If you would like more money in your life, but feel that you live in poverty or that money is scarce, what do you think you will attract? More of the same. But what if wealth just seems unbelievable to you? How about just shifting your thoughts one step higher? Focus your thoughts on being self-supportive. You might begin to see job opportunities appear. If you act on those that appeal to you, you very likely will have a new job. Then take the next step in shifting your thoughts upward. Maybe it’s putting money in a savings account or other form of reliable investment. Continue to work on shifting your thoughts upward and you will attract what you need.
Even if you like to boogie down, keep your thoughts rising up that pole.
I am sure that most of you have seen the photos of the Spring Breakers lounging and cavorting on the beaches in warmer states. There can be absolute beauty in defiance, but history has shown that it can make you sick, dead and sometimes burned at the stake.
I think in this case, it might result in deportation to an as-yet-unknown new country populated with those who just don’t have a clue.
Yes, I am scathing in my response to this craziness. Maybe you agree, and maybe you don’t, but is it worth putting your life at risk? In a little more than a week, my Sweetie and I would have been boarding a plane for a week in Grand Cayman. It was my retirement trip, and we were looking forward to soaking up sun and surf. That’s all gone now, cancelled because of this pandemic. Who knows when we will get to go, but right now I can’t fuss about that. I am more focused on keeping us functioning at optimum health and avoiding exposure.
What makes people defiant? Trying to achieve something, prove a point, make a case for something that matters. And occasionally, just being dumb. What did this get you? A moment’s worth of fun traded for weeks, maybe months, of recovery? I just read that a number of students who attended Spring Break have tested positive for the virus. I hope that was the only thing they contracted, as Spring Break is known for STD outbreaks. Such carelessness with the glorious human body.
I did say there can be beauty in defiance. We have only to look at history to see the faces of those who stood up for what they believed in, creating positive change for everyone. If you want to be defiant of this pandemic, put on your hazmat suit and go out and help those in need. Deliver groceries to the elderly. Take medicines to those who are sick. If you have medical training, support your brothers and sisters. Keep the economy going by purchasing takeout food.
Practice SOCIAL DISTANCING, it is reducing the spread of illness.
WASH YOUR HANDS WITH SOAP. I read that this is an enveloped virus and has a lipid (fatty) layer. Soap breaks down and destroys this layer so it can’t be transmitted. If you are going to overbuy anything at the grocery store, make it soap and use it constantly. For those of you out there in Dumf*ckistan, soaping yourself up before frolicking on the beach is not the answer.
Happy Valentine’s Day to all! A day totally dedicated to love; sharing, giving and receiving, but do you think about giving love to yourself? Probably not, there are plenty of us too intent on giving it to everyone else than to think of our own needs.
It is the main part of our purpose here, besides growing our spirit. What is Spirit if not love? Life is messy and may often have challenges related to self-love. What is self-love, anyway? I believe it is honoring our needs before, but not at the expense of, others. How can you love and care for someone else if you don’t do it for you first? If you don’t, then anything you give might contain the energy of lack or resentment and that’s not a good gift.
When you put yourself first, you continuously fill yourself with love energy so your needs are taken care of so you have plenty – and maybe a little extra – for others. Now that is what I’m talking about!
Part of loving yourself includes loving all the messy parts. This is what I mean in reference to my blog title. We are human beings filled with good stuff and some sh*tty stuff, not all of it poop. We have emotions, not all of them good and some of them downright stinky. We think bad thoughts, sometimes right after the good ones. We have crooked teeth, and big asses – although they are popular now – wrinkles and glasses. We experience delusional thoughts and sometimes can’t control what comes out of our mouths. We’re every color and creed, that doesn’t always get honored. We’re stupid and we kill, sometimes out of greed. Being harmful in any way is not loving and should not be loved within yourself. If you love the crazy parts of you, then maybe you wouldn’t feel the need to be harmful.
How about starting out with a hug? Yourself, that is, with no help from another. Yasss, go ahead and wrap your arms around you. Who care if anyone looks? They might get jealous and do it too. Look in a mirror and say, “I Love YOU”. Do you have any idea how powerful that is? You would, if you took the time to do it.
Now pretend that every day is Valentine’s Day and treat yourself to a little self-love. Even if you are a little bit stinky.
“Life is a journey, not a destination.” I’m sure many of you have heard that phrase by Ralph Waldo Emerson. How often do you say “if I have/achieve/do this [thing], then I’ll be happy or whatever”? I know I have many times. But then what? Is life over because you got to that point? Maybe for a few, but most of us come up with the next thing.
That is why life is a journey.
I think it is supposed to be. Life is made up of a series of moments, discoveries and actions that help us grow. Or maybe just get us closer to death (sarcasm intended). We shouldn’t let it become a drudge or even a race to the finish line. Life is also not a competition, unless it is within your own mind and if that is what it takes to motivate you, then go for it.
I see life as a renewal. Think of how many people you have been. Baby, child, teenager, young adult, adult, elderly and many versions in-between. Relationships, careers, hobbies and interests. And if you think you don’t have interests. . .well, reading is obviously one of them.
Downtime is a renewal. Sometimes you just need to give your body or brain a break and do mindless activities. I like computer games and have a tendency to get addicted to them. I’m in that mode now, but am starting to realize that I need to get active again. After this post, I have a date with my treadmill. It’s only 12 degrees Fahrenheit outside or I would take a walk. What is important about this is acknowledging and accepting what renewal actions we need. Honoring your body’s need for rest is as important as keeping it strong, flexible and healthy. You can’t do one without the other. If you are fidgety, it is just unspent energy and your body’s way of saying “get me moving!”. Just as feeling listless says “give me a break.”
Too often we push ourselves past the breaking point because of the perceived expectations of others. Do you really think your employer wants a crabby or sick you at work? No, especially if you are sick and infectious to others. You wouldn’t want a crabby or sick doctor operating on you, would you? Listen to what your body is saying to you and take care of it, unless you don’t care if it takes care of you. When you honor your body, your mind will respond and give you ideas. They could be creative, inventive or just reminders of to-do tasks that you forgot when you were neglecting your body.
You can think of the Earth as just a gigantic body. She goes through seasons as a form of renewal. We are in Winter, when she lies dormant and lets the Sky be active. Spring tends to be volatile, when Earth and Sky work together to cleanse and clear the way for new life. Summer is about growth, so the two work in peaceful harmony. Fall is the time when Earth and Sky share their beauty and bounty with all of nature. Imagine what we would be like if we nurtured ourselves in that same way? Do you feel renewed?