I Can’t Believe What I Heard

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I’m reposting this, because there is a lot of cognitive dissonance going on right now.  The important thing to remember is that your truth is that which resonates within you.  Does it make you feel good or does it make you feel bad?
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Cognitive dissonance occurs when you suddenly hear completely conflicting information about a long-held belief.  It causes stress and anxiety, and can change your brain pathways to that which resemble someone with PTSD.

A good example of cognitive dissonance is someone who began smoking during the years that the Marlboro Man commercials were running.  Sexy, mysterious, the actor playing this role made smoking look cool and tough.  These ads were soon followed by Joe Camel.  Both depicted a habit that was thought to be completely acceptable.  And then. . .lung cancer became the new enemy.

Many smokers went into complete denial.  “That won’t happen to me.”  Some thought they should just cut back.  And there were others who probably thought “what the hell, I’m going to die someday, anyway” and increased their consumption.  These behaviors were maladaptive, in order to lessen the belief’s conflict.  Cognitive dissonance occurred when they encountered someone, or heard evidence of smoking-induced lung cancer.  Cortisol would flood the body and eventually contribute to chronic inflammation, the root cause of most diseases.

Cognitive dissonance can occur when a trusted source of information suddenly denounces everything they supported, or even removes evidence of such.  I believe we are in a time when such things are occurring.  So, how do you reconcile conflicting beliefs?

Avoidance can be helpful, but might be just putting your head in the sand.  Defiance, which may or may not get you into trouble.  Changing your belief, but you might want to perform due diligence of fact-checking both sets of beliefs.  But ultimately, it comes down to what do you feel in your gut.  Your gut is an extremely powerful sensory device.  You’ve had that sick feeling when you are around someone who makes you feel bad or is scary.  Trust that feeling.  Make time for meditation so you can tune into the Universe and ask for guidance.  Don’t worry if you don’t hear anything immediately.  The Universe will get the answer to you in multiple ways, even with a song playing over and over in your head.  When you feel inside that you have your truth, seek out like-minded individuals who will support you.

Just don’t make yourself sick over someone’s lies.

Sanity Is Within You

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So many people are feeling out-of-sorts, stressed, angry, sad, and even slightly nutty.  We should all give ourselves a break considering the wild ride of the first half of 2020.  Messages of doom and gloom, inciting fear, added to conflicting information, comes rocketing at us from every direction.  You can’t help but feel a little bit insane, and begin to doubt yourself.

Stop that crazy train and take a good long look at your life.  Up until January, what has your life looked like?  Have you been in a career?  Are you able to support yourself?  Do you have a family?  Do you have a home and are you able to provide food and other necessities for yourself and your family?  If you answer yes to one or more of those questions, then you’ve have likely led a reasonably normal life.  Maybe your life is still like that, in spite of the outside world.  Seems pretty sane to me.

Then everything changed.  And you have talked about it with everyone.  Maybe differing opinions have entered your conversations.  Maybe discussions have been heated.  Maybe even you are not on speaking terms with some people.  Maybe words like “I don’t understand you” or “radical” have been tossed around.  And doubt is now roiling around in your gut like bad pastrami.

It’s not them, and it’s not YOU.

The planet has been building up a pile of sh*t for eons.  Every angry word, every incident of disrespect, every act of putting someone down, every moment of shame, blame and guilt, everything that is harmful to another, has been stuffed down and suppressed for our entire existence.  And like bad pastrami, it’s gotta come out.  (I know, disgusting analogy, but you can agree it’s effective.)  The time has come to . . . deal with our mess.

Just as you would if you had an upset tummy, you spend some time alone.  You rest, turn off the television or other noise, drink some tea, and maybe soothe yourself by soaking in a warm bathtub.  In other words, nurture yourself.

All that outside noise, is just that: NOISE.  Tune it out and stay out of the fray.  Don’t get sucked into a nonsensical battle with your nearest and dearest, because all of this is just temporary.

The world is going through a change, and the present insanity is a necessary part of the process.  How can something become better if you don’t clean out the bad plumbing?  It was destined to happen, and it will all be for the better, so the less you resist the easier it goes.

If you are the warrior type, then find a positive place where you take action.  If it is angry and fearful, that is not where you want to put your energy.  If you are the behind-the-scenes worker type, then put your energy into helping others.  If you are just trying to manage your life, then fill yourself up with the energy of Love.

What is the energy of Love?  Honoring yourself and your needs.  You are lovable and valuable.  You treat yourself as you want to be treated.  Loving yourself is not selfish – it is NECESSARY.  When you fill yourself with Love, you light up like a beacon.  People are drawn to your radiance, and it shines outward to everyone you come in contact with, thereby changing their frequency to that of Love.  What do you think would happen if everyone did this?  Think about that for a moment.  Pretty spectacular, huh?  The insanity, kinda like, disappears doesn’t it?

How ’bout we start right now and agree to fill ourselves with Love every single day.  I’m in.

Thought For Today – June 27th

Stay neutral.  Many people are stressed and snappy with all that is going on.  Don’t get sucked into their emotional turmoil.  Take a deep breath and let it roll off of you.  None of it is about you.

The Only Thing We Have To Fear. . .

“. . . is fear itself.”  This statement was made by Franklin D Roosevelt during his March 4th, 1933 inaugural address.  It is more powerful now than it was then.  Why?  Because fear is an illusion designed to keep you stressed and not focusing on what it important.

Fear and its cousins, worry and anxiety, produce a stress response in your body.  The “flight or fight” syndrome that floods you with cortisol and adrenaline.  These combine to create inflammation, the root cause of most all diseases.

Fear is the belief that you have no control over the unknown.  Who does?  You can’t control people so their behavior is always an unknown.  Fear keeps you unable to access your inner resources and guidance to find solutions or just a different view of the situation.

How do you stay out of fear?  Accept the fact that the only thing you can control is you and your response.  Like attracts like, so put the brakes on those negative thoughts.  Let’s say you just lost your job.  Yes, that is scary and brings fear.  Allow yourself some time to process those emotions.  The loss of anything brings grief.  Feel that and notice where in your body you feel the most pain.  Be gentle and care for your body.  Breathe deep and allow yourself some rest.  When you can calm your body’s response and slow down your breathing, you will be able to think clearly.

When you stay in fear, your questions become statements.  “I can’t afford this or that.”  “I won’t find a job earning what I was.”  “I don’t have benefits.”

Begin with having gratitude for what you have.  This puts you in the mindset of receiving.  Review your skills, such as updating your resume.  What skills do you have that you might not have been utilizing?  Can you act upon them?  Do you have the resources to work from home?  Who do you network with?  These questions help you focus on positive, action-oriented thoughts, and will guide you to next steps.  Visualize that the right job is waiting for you.

Do you see how this changes?  Fear and negativity put you in the mode of creating beliefs; the kind you don’t want to keep in your mind.  When you move into a state of calm and express gratitude, your thoughts become questions which open up possibilities.  Then you can use your visualization skills to attract the perfect situation.

Worry and fear is running rampant, and global media gets all jiggy with hyping that up.  Avoid it as much as possible.  Instead, go for a walk or sit in nature.  Absorb the sun and beauty of the outdoors.  Get a little exercise to release any tension in your body.  Getting on, in or near water is very calming.  Nature is the best anti-anxiety medicine ever and it is free.  Use your nose to breathe as much as possible.  Mouth breathing is shallow and activates the stress response.  Meditate, or just sit quietly and let your thoughts roll through your head.

If you wish that this worry and fear would go away, don’t feed it.  Take control of your thoughts, and keep them in the realm of higher energy.  Everything you need is within you.  Honor that.  Listen to yourself.  Love yourself.  Care for your being as though it is the most precious thing you have.  That is how you destroy fear.

I Can’t Believe What I Heard

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Cognitive dissonance occurs when you suddenly hear completely conflicting information about a long-held belief.  It causes stress and anxiety, and can change your brain pathways to that which resemble someone with PTSD.

A good example of cognitive dissonance is someone who began smoking during the years that the Marlboro Man commercials were running.  Sexy, mysterious, the actor playing this role made smoking look cool and tough.  These ads were soon followed by Joe Camel.  Both depicted a habit that was thought to be completely acceptable.  And then. . .lung cancer became the new enemy.

Many smokers went into complete denial.  “That won’t happen to me.”  Some thought they should just cut back.  And there were others who probably thought “what the hell, I’m going to die someday, anyway” and increased their consumption.  These behaviors were maladaptive, in order to lessen the belief’s conflict.  Cognitive dissonance occurred when they encountered someone, or heard evidence of smoking-induced lung cancer.  Cortisol would flood the body and eventually contribute to chronic inflammation, the root cause of most diseases.

Cognitive dissonance can occur when a trusted source of information suddenly denounces everything they supported, or even removes evidence of such.  I believe we are in a time when such things are occurring.  So, how do you reconcile conflicting beliefs?

Avoidance can be helpful, but might be just putting your head in the sand.  Defiance, which may or may not get you into trouble.  Changing your belief, but you might want to perform due diligence of fact-checking both sets of beliefs.  But ultimately, it comes down to what do you feel in your gut.  Your gut is an extremely powerful sensory device.  You’ve had that sick feeling when you are around someone who makes you feel bad or is scary.  Trust that feeling.  Make time for meditation so you can tune into the Universe and ask for guidance.  Don’t worry if you don’t hear anything immediately.  The Universe will get the answer to you in multiple ways, even with a song playing over and over in your head.  When you feel inside that you have your truth, seek out like-minded individuals who will support you.

Just don’t make yourself sick over someone’s lies.

Happy Mother’s Day

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There are a multitude of sources regarding the origination of Mother’s Day, and all for good reason.  I like to think of it as honoring the nurturing aspect of a woman towards a child.  However, many women are not mothers, including me, but that doesn’t lessen the capability of nurturing.  Nor do I think it is limited to the female gender.

Nurturing is a deeply-ingrained capacity to care for another, and a full expression of love.  Anyone can act in the capacity of a mother simply through this self-less, generous expression.  The first step to nurturing is turning it inwards to yourself.  You cannot give to others freely, without first giving to yourself.

Nurturing is honoring yourself when you are tired, just as a father puts a cranky child to bed.  It is feeding yourself when you are hungry, as a mother nurses a hungry baby.  It is motivating yourself to fulfill your passions, as a parent encourages a child to build their skills.

To love yourself unconditionally by honoring your body, your needs and your very existence, all of which is learned in your early childhood.  If those needs were not met when you were a child, it is never to late to nurture yourself.  You act out when your inner child is not being cared for.  Ask yourself what you need and do that.  Give yourself a hug and tell your child-self that you are loved and cared for and protected.  When you begin to mother yourself, you will no longer seek it outside of you.  Your relationships will become more meaningful and your total well-being will feel happy.

Happy Mother’s Day to all of us.

Dissed

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Distant.  Discontent.  Disassociate.  Dishearten.  Disrespect.  Disabled.  Dislike.  Dishonest.  Distort.  Disagree.  Disbelief.  Disaffirm.

DISCONNECT.

Dis- is a Latin prefix meaning apart, or having a negative, reversing effect.  Using dis in front of any word would describe our current state of disorder.  It is certainly creating a multitude of negative thoughts.  I know have succumbed to them.  I also know that it is our Ego struggling to wrest control of our subconscious from the Light, keeping us feeling separate and afraid.

The dark, negative energies hate to be disrespected and will swallow you up if you allow them.  Give your Ego a smack and remind it to stay the f*ck, 6 feet back, and practice mental distancing.  You, your soul, is in charge.

If you are feeling a little lost or uncertain and don’t know what to believe, then you are disconnected from the Source.  Shut off those news channels, stay away from crabby social media posts, go to a quiet little corner of your home, yard or other outdoor space and tune back in.

All around you, and all around and on this planet are legions of Angels, Ascended Masters and all other Divine Guides ready and waiting to help you.  All you have to do is Ask.  Any time, anywhere, all the time.  Just Ask.  “Help me turn my thoughts positive” is a good place to start.  Suck in a deep breath and feel your heart expand.  This physically opens you to higher energy.  Pour out your feelings and thoughts to your Guardian Angels.  Allow yourself to experience your feelings.  Sadness, hopelessness, anxiety and worry get stuck in your cells and keep you in negativity.  Practice a little handwashing on your cells by doing a little mental “sudsing” to get the junk out of you, and then allow your tears to wash it all away.  Your Guardian Angels and all the other Divine Beings are there to help you through this.

Not only will you feel cleansed, but able to open your Crown Chakra and feel the Light pour back into you.  There is no social distancing with the Light, only peace and contentment.

Spiritual Distancing

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I have been in a retreat.  Who am I kidding, most everyone is.  The stay-at-home order has most of us confined to our spaces, often with only our thoughts to occupy our time.  Not a bad thing, because when was the last time you actually got to sit down and really focus on something.

Choose your thoughts wisely.

I tend to be an introspective person anyway, so this gives me more time to hone in on my interior world.  I have been able to focus on shifting my energy to a higher frequency, which not only benefits me, but a significant portion of my community.  As my Heart Chakra expands, it helps others to expand as well.

I have time to connect to the Higher Realms for guidance and support, and sometimes just to let go of my fears and worries.  I spend time researching and reading what the spiritual community has posted to increase my knowledge as well as my spiritual gifts.  I then reach out to others with support, guidance and Light in order to assist with the transformation of our world.

Earth, and everything in, on and around it, is going through a change.  There is no stopping what is going on.  It is all changing for the better, so why would you want to resist?  Use distancing as your opportunity to raise the frequency of your Inner Light.  You will have heard the names of public figures who support spiritual guidance.  Find their websites and social media pages.  Read, study, research, anything you can do to support your inner wellbeing.  When you can focus on peace, self-nurturing, creative expression, and time in nature, your path through this transformation will be easier.  Spiritual distancing will represent the space that your bright Light encompasses.

Be well and shine your Heart Light.

Good Grief

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We are going through a collective change as our planet moves into a higher frequency of light energy. Changes are happening and more are coming, but they will lead us in a better direction providing we do our inner work. Spirit is guiding us every step of the way so listen to your guidance.

It is interesting that the COVID-19 virus is affecting the lungs and breathing. The word “Spirit” originates from the Latin word spirare, which means to breathe. Slow, deep breathing helps us to access Spirit. If you read Louise Hay’s book “Heal Your Body” (1982, Hay House Inc), the mental causes for lung issues are: depression, grief, fear of taking in life, and not feeling worthy of living life fully. Unresolved grief lives deep within the lungs, and we are collectively being challenged to face our shadows. Grief is not limited to death and dying, but any unresolved emotional pain.

Healing grief can be a painful task, but trust me on this, it is worth every tear you shed. About 13 years ago, my life was in shambles. I was going through a divorce with a verbally abusive alcoholic, the country was starting its economic recession so we were forced to stay in our house for a year and a half until it sold at a loss. My relationship with my mother was never very good, but it got worse. I allowed people to take advantage of my kindness and hard-working ethics. Basically, I hit bottom. I kept asking myself why I let this constantly happen. So one day, I stripped myself naked and stood in front of my full-length mirror and took a good look at myself. What was I lacking? What was wrong with me? I mentally catalogued my physical faults and then did the same with my personality. And then came the behavior patterns. I didn’t like them. Then I made myself catalogue all my good stuff. I knew that I was basically a good, kind-hearted, generous woman, but my boundaries and lack of self-worth made all that look weak. I was determined to change. And I did.

It took about five years of intensive self-work. I did most of it myself, but I know that is not for everyone. I love to read and research, and by doing so, cements the knowledge in my brain. I learned to love myself. I learned that not having contact with my family stopped the mind-f*ck dialogue I had to endure. I learned how to be my own mother, by nurturing my lost inner child. I learned how to allow people to help and support me. I learned how to say No. I cried a lot. Sometimes deep, lung-burning sessions that I thought would never stop. I grieved for what I lost and what I never had. And you know what?

It worked.

Trust me on this. It worked. I am not the same person I was ten years ago. I am content with my life, and most days I feel joy within. I am in constant connection with Spirit for guidance on my best life. If it weren’t for Spirit’s guidance, we wouldn’t be living in our house across the street from a beautiful urban lake and within walking distance of groceries and take-out food, all of which is allowable during our current stay-at-home status. I know that my energy frequency is ascending, and it will help me hold the light of Divine Love within my heart in order to assist with raising the frequency of the planet.

As I write this, I can feel the healing energy spreading. If you would like to increase the healing energy, do your grief work. Use this time of rest and retreat to face your inner demons. Nurture yourself as you would a newborn baby. Allow yourself to grieve for whatever losses you have faced and maybe are now facing. Letting it wash away with your tears can only be good grief.

Food Frenzy

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You’ve seen it; rows and rows of empty shelves at the grocery store. Carts piled high with food and paper goods. Panic buying, they call it, but what if it begins with something more primal?

If you look at the pyramid representing Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs; food, water, warmth and rest are at the base of the tier and are defined as Deficiency Needs. These needs arise when there is a real or perceived lack in a person’s life. The longer this lack remains, the more the desire to fulfill the need. Currently, the fear of shelter-in-place has many people flocking to grocery stores to stock up on items to meet this need, sometimes in excess.

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Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

If you read any of the local government closure orders, food and the supply chain are considered essential services and remain open regardless of the shelter-in-place. There is more than enough food to go around and the opportunity to get it. Those quarantined or self-isolating can have food delivered.

Cravings are intensified during a crisis. Anxiety sufferers tend to reach for salty, crunchy foods. Bread and pasta people need calming and comforting. Cookies, cakes and pies represent hugs, pleasure and reassurance. Dairy works as an antidepressant. Think about which shelves in the stores are the most plundered. In the book “Constant Craving” by Doreen Virtue (Hay House, 1995), she explains the emotional needs behind food cravings and how to overcome them.

Food cravings tend to be our first go-to for emotional comfort. As you reach for that bag of chips, stop for a moment and listen to your thoughts. Are you stressed? Do you have another option besides eating, unless you are truly hungry in which case, you are better off grabbing a crunchy carrot. If you are housebound can you do some form of exercise to burn off the stress? Maybe even throwing a pillow at the wall will help. Do you live in an area where you can safely get out and walk or run, while maintaining social distancing?

Be mindful of your need for extra food. When we come out of this pandemic, we don’t want to be carrying an extra load of body fat. Tend to your emotional needs first. Cry, scream, write letters and burn them, meditate, talk to the dog or cat, sit outside in the sunshine, walk, run, anything to keep from stuffing yourself with food. You’ll be glad you did.