If you follow my blog, you know that I write about emotional issues and beliefs, many of which are from personal experience. I pose challenging questions in the hopes that you think about them and make changes so you can live your best life. I wish that for everyone and that is what we are here for.
This time, I am asking you to challenge your beliefs. It is a very controversial subject, but one that is near-and-dear to me both personally and professionally.
It is the choice of when to have or not have a baby.
Babies are very precious. They bring much needed light and life to the world and teach us that humans are amazing. Because they are so precious, they deserve to be born into a family that is ready and able to give them the love and care they need to thrive.
Human beings are biologically wired to have sex, which can lead to procreation. Males are wired to have it quickly and often. Females take their time to choose the best mate. Increasing the vitality of the herd, so to speak. The human component of this is a loving family.
Biology rules, in spite of our denial of it. The moment we start producing hormones, the urge to mate begins. I’m sure that the global impact of media and entertainment can stimulate this somewhat prematurely, but nothing stops biology. Certainly not denial. It is important to acknowledge this. Acknowledge what might be happening. That preteen, supposedly studying with a friend in their bedroom while you are snoozing during the evening news. The college student, far away from home for the first time, is lonely and goes to a party with friends. The adult, emotionally battered from a neglected childhood, equating love with sex. And the list goes on.
The biggest gift you can give your child is teaching them the facts of biology and how to respect and honor their body. Their body, their choice. Teach them that No is a complete sentence. Teach them to respect someone else’s no and move on. Teach them to protect their body from disease or unintended pregnancy. Teach them to honor someone else’s decision to protect their body. Your child is precious.
The argument is that a baby is a gift from Spirit. Well, absolutely. No argument there.
I truly believe that Spirit created human bodies with unconditional love. We are placed upon Earth with Free Will choice in order to experience life and grow our spirit. The ultimate goal is to live our best life, give and receive love, and find our way back to Spirit. If all of this is true, and Spirit gifted us with Free Will Choice, doesn’t that mean we get to decide when to have, or not have, a baby? Isn’t honoring your body a Thank You to Spirit for its creation?
If instead we believe that this is entirely up to Spirit, why would Spirit allow a baby to be born into an abusive home with possibly fatal consequences? If we exercised our free will choice, then isn’t that like protecting the baby prior to its conception?
Babies are precious.
This subject has deep personal meaning to me. If my birth parents had the resources to protect their bodies, I wouldn’t be here. I am okay with that. I may have, instead, been born into a loving home and not had to spend most of my life struggling to resolve the emotional damage from my present life. My mother was a teenager when I was born. She missed graduation and all the other fun things of teenage and young adult life. Her boyfriend, my father, was older – an adult – and chose not to give up his lifestyle for family life. I held little interest for him since I wasn’t a boy. Three lives have been impacted by not having a choice. Well, I suppose I wouldn’t be trying to help others if I hadn’t had that experience.
Professionally, I am at the front lines of the consequences of unintended pregnancies. I work for a government social services agency. Thankfully, I handle money and not directly interact with clients – it would break my heart. Each month, we experience these results. Each year it costs more and we receive less funding to provide services. We treat sexually transmitted infections, dispense planning methods, do cervical cancer screenings, process paternity tests, accept child support payments, authorize public assistance payments to families who can’t afford to feed their growing family and much more. The numbers keep growing and the costs go up. We rescue babies and children from homes where the parents struggle with substance abuse, have mental health issues, incur sexual abuse, bring violence into the home that may result in a fatality. There are too many children in foster homes. These homes are expensive. Some of these children never return to their birth family. Some of them may get adopted by a loving family, but even then, a few are returned to foster care because the new family cannot cope with the severe emotional and behavioral issues of the children. It tears at my heart to see these numbers growing. When and where does it stop!!!
Denial will not stop it. Celibacy will not stop it. Incarceration will not stop it.
It stops where it begins. Your Body, Your Choice.
Honor and respect your body by making the choice. Honor and thank Spirit for your body by making the choice. But most of all, honor the babies and children by letting them be born to someone who is ready and capable of loving and caring for them.
Because. . .babies are precious.
For Kathy B: It is not how many you reach, but reaching the one who gets the message. For each one who does, the energy will radiate out and multiply. Many Blessings.